Too many times relationships end and we tend to blame the other person. But what if it really is our fault? Some of us are just not mean to be with just anyone. Ever wonder why you tend to move from one person to the other? Maybe your needs aren't being met. Or just maybe the reason just anyone will not due is because really you're not ready to actually let anyone in. The struggle to feel wanted is real when you don't actually know that's what you're looking for. Sometimes we hide ourselves under another person just to feel like we're need or wanted. But that is only a temporary fix. A small high if you will. It's never enough. Sure, you can find someone to take away the void for the time being but that's not gonna change anything. The next day you will be looking for another fix. Sometimes we will know this is the case and still continue to jump from scene to seen. Rather it be another person or another drug. Because it's easier to fill the hole then to have to feel it. You can go your whole life just with temporary fixes and still be empty inside. Be careful what you choose to do. Sometimes that hole only grows. Those temporary fixes could end up damaging you more then you know.

Have you ever looked back and thought "Wow, who I am today isn't nothing like who I was yesterday". One little moment can change a persons whole view on life and how they move forward. The nicest person can lose faith if that one little thing holding them together is broken. You just never know what is going on behind the curtains in other peoples lives. Sometimes with go through this world sad and lonely until that Mr/Mrs right comes around then before we even know it we are changed into this happy and cheerful person. or vise versa, we find the person who we thought was our other half just to find that they make/made or lives worse. We choose who we allow into our lives and how long we allow them to stay there. People will take advantage of you and rub you raw if you allow them to. But once in awhile that person who makes your life better will walk in at just the right time. Still waiting on that. Sometimes life moves do quickly we don't even notice the changes until after we sit and think about where we are in our lives. Changing a profession, changing location, and changing our outlook on life. I heard once that we are who we hang out with. The people in our lives are a part of who we are.. I believe that the people in choose to give our time to do actually play a part in who we are. maybe not a mirrored image of who we are, but a fraction of what we see in ourselves. Sometimes we can't help but just be attracted to the person in need because we have struggled or know someone who has struggled. Maybe we hang around the asshole at the party because we are to shy to hold our own and want to be more like them at getting their point across. Sometimes even just moves through the motions can create change if we allow it to. Maybe that person you give a quarter to yesterday at the coffee stand buys you a coffee on day you forget your wallet. Or that lady who you saw crying on that bus bench, that you gave you took the time to comfort her, turns out to be that person you have been searching for most of your life. The point is that you never know what life has in store for you. Take the walk home instead of getting that cab. take the elevator instead of the stairs. Once in awhile jump outside of your comfort zone. You might be surprised how quickly your life can change just by doing the little things different

We all have moments in our life where we are confused as to which way we should go. Are we moving in the right direction? Are we doing it for ourselves or someone else? If it's for ourselves, are we doing it for the right reasons? If it's for someone else, are we really thinking about the end of this path and where it is truly heading? And have we lost ourselves along the way? There are so many choices we have to face on a day to day basis. Some of them with easy quick answers and some of them with difficult and long decisions to be made. Have you made a choice lately that you wish you would have spent more time thinking on? Or maybe one that you took to long with? We all do it from time to time. It's okay not to have all the right answers. That is what makes us all human. How do you live with decisions made in an instant that didn't turn out the way you wanted it to? You keep moving forward. It may be hard to get that first step out but once you do, you forget that first step was hard. Just keep moving. eventually you will end up where you're suppose to be. Sure, the journey may be hard and rocky at first. Just remember you have already decided that you know what you've been though. Which means you know if you want to make those choices and walked down that path again. Did it hurt? Did it make you feel happy? Did it help you on your way to the path you truly want to be on? Only you know the answers to these questions. Just remember to be true to you. Even if someone is walking beside you, you have to come first when you are deciding where you need and want to be.

Okay so I haven't been on here in awhile. I guess it could be because nothing deep and needed to be said has happen. Life has a way of making you feel like things are never going to change either for the better or the worse. But "the show must go on"! So you get knocked around time and time again. GET OVER IT! Sometimes we forget that there will be a tomorrow and a yesterday and most importantly a today! Live in the moment or live for tomorrow and sorrow for yesterday but live for you. Life will continue with or without you so why not bask in all it has to offer? Its really all up to you how and when you give in. But I promise you will give in one day. For today is tomorrow and yesterday eventually. Just remember that! I has been far too long!

Do you kno what the difference is between right and wrong? Can you spot someone else committing a wrong doing? Then why can't you tell the difference between someone pretending everything is okay and it actually being okay? Why do we tend to hide our feelings so deep inside that not even we remember if we are okay or not? I think we all do this to shield away the hurt. But how long is too long to shield it? These are all things we ask ourselves on a daily basis and yet we never even bother to answer them. We just keep going about our business like nothing is wrong. Our we wrong to be doing this? I think not. It is easier to hide the hurt than to actually deal with it. Dealing would make up stronger and hiding it would just push it away under the rug. So the next time you are hurting remember that even though hiding it is easier, it only ends up hurting longer than dealing with it in the first place.

How do you know when a relationship is truly over? Can you just sense it? What if you think everything is going good only to find out that you were misled? You ever notice how people that barely know what's going on always say things like, "You guys looked so happy. Are you sure you can't work it out?" But what do you say when people that are around you a lot of time say things like, "It makes sense. I saw it coming a while ago." If they saw it coming why didn't they say anything to you? Would you have listen if they had? Most likely not. We all too often tend to miss all the little hints we are given. Maybe it just becomes habit to be with the other person and live the way you have been living. Who knows why we miss or overlook these things. Some of us are just in a world of our own.

We tend to forget who we are when we find someone we truely care about. We start off by putting the little things aside for now and before you know it you are a completely different person. That soda you used to like has been replaced with juice. That size 7 jeans are now size 14. An extra piece of cake is the whole damn thing. never noticed? Just start thinking about all the things that you used to do before him and go from there. How much has actually changed for you? oes the good changes out weigh the bad? for every milestone you succeed in, is it all yours or do you share it with someone else? just remember when things start to look down, you are the reason why you are the person you are today! No one else made the decisition you made in your life for you to end up where you are. In the end, you said yes to trading the dew for flavored water. Yes to having kids and getting married. And you totally said yes to that cake you ate last night when everyone was sleeping! Remember you live for you everyday, even when you thing your living for someone else.

So they always say that the woman stops being sexually active after you get married. I'm beginning to figure it all out. And it is the man. Yup thats right I said the man. My husband is still very sexully active but he doesn't want sex all the time. And I've talked to many other wives and they all say the same thing. Well at least 4 out of 5 of them agree. So where do you people get off saying that it is us women? I think you men lose interest in the same thing every night. But that is not only our faults you know. Come on men, be creative with night time activities. It can't always be the same every night because then things get boring quick! They don't have to be crazy either. so all im saying is dont go pointing the finger at us if its your fault!